Dating wervice with pics
That's what I learned after talking with dating services for tips about what works and, more important, doesn't work when you're trying to attract a date. Data shows that profile pictures like these -- extremes that forget the point is to present an attractive self-- ultimately don't work.
And being good at online dating isn't just about the hookup culture, it's about potentially finding your life (or next) partner.
Ok Cupid found profile pictures that involve doing something interesting (but leave a little to the imagination, OK?
) resulted in a 40 percent chance that a message would lead to a conversation. Ok Cupid crunched data from more than 7,000 member photos and found that women's profile pictures were more popular when they smiled flirtatiously at the camera.
So, if your ideal date is bringing along your niece to see that new Marvel movie, keep it to yourself. Bottom line: A study from Evidence-Based Medicine found the best approach to a profile is to spend 70 percent of it discussing yourself and 30 percent about who you're looking for.
Ok Cupid found that you have an 84 percent chance of being ignored if you send a message that just says "hey." Instead, try something visual (no, not like Anthony Weiner).
"I don't think it looks like you're looking for a relationship" said Alex Williamson, vice president of branded content for dating app Bumble.
These photos are so despised that Bumble decided to ban them outright in October, saying people tended to pass most frequently on profiles with those pics.
Oh, and everyone agrees: Bathroom mirror selfies are the worst.
Dating app Hinge found there are certain topics that attract people better than others.
For example, profiles that smack of spontaneity, including those that mention bucket list items or vacation plans, are more than twice as likely to spark a conversation. Profiles with confessions, like a riff on the Two Truths and a Lie game, or a reveal about the worst date you've ever had, are 59 percent more likely to lead to conversations.
But if you're into more than a wham-bam-thank-you-whoever, experts say details matter.
Don't write vague statements about being fun, easy-going and enjoying long walks.