Dating a poor man
So why did I not run away as soon as I found out he was an egotistical maniac? Besides, he was a welcome relief from all the wimpy new men I had been dating.
I was sick of being asked what I wanted to do, of being the one who made all the decisions. Like the alpha male in a wolf pack who walks with head and tail erect, Mr Rich would enter a room with such confidence your heart skipped a beat.
Well, we did arrive at a rather posh hotel, only it turned out my date owned it, along with about 200 others.
As I stepped from his BMW convertible onto the cobbled drive, tripping and practically twisting my stilettoed ankle, he had already shot off inside - rich men seem to move and talk quicker.
hi, I spoke the other day a guy who visit our church,we were on this subject! You marry for love and being the best to one another.
Marry someone who doesn't have money.tell you know quite a few married into $ None are happy! Thankyou love of Jesus Liz at 37 with zero financial means always living this way ...should be clear he has no desire to do anything other than pursue his own self interests regardless of financial consequences ...admirable to pursue your passion however 17 years later it's irresponsible ...nothing in scripture TELLS anyone to live poorcannot expect him to change to raise family ...
However, if you are willing to work at home and outside then things could work out. I believe in the old-fashioned idea of the father taking care of the family. But if a marriage is under strain because of lack of finances, that can be prevented by waiting for a better off Christian. Fundamental to Christianity is to honour those whom you should honour.This was the catch - the relationship was on his terms.Given that he spent a huge chunk of his time jetting around the globe, I had to be on call.Without money you are trapped together and feel more like wanting to be out of it altogether. I live in a country where most of the marriages are arranged or near arranged and it works well. When pap met nana he was enamoured by her, they both worked hard and new how to take care of eachother: home, family needs, budget. They looked like mad rich people in the end but in reality, they just took care of what they had and got things that lasted and such. Nowhere in scripture do you find christians who dont support themselves or make some effort to do so, even in such hard times as they had. But if you are going to be unhappy and then get a divorce don't do it. Everyone around the engaged couple can see that it is a disaster in the making. On the up-side, most musicians work nights and weekends, so it should be possible to arrange your schedule so that he can take care of the kids while you work.People stay together because that is what is expected of them. I think it's possible but only you can he can tell. Many people who have little money are very happy and there always seems to be a way to increase income whem kids come along. Oh, and word to the wise, if you go to a lot of his concerts, and they use amplifiers, wear earplugs.Liz If the 37 year old was making 0,000 per year, would the question arise? By that time he will probably realize this himself and get some other income to help out. (We have a lady at our church who has gone to her son's karaoke things for years and has lost most of her hearing from that.) A husband/ father must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect.---Janzze on 7/11/09 You raise an important question. And the question both of you need to ask in your own hearts: Will being married to each other bring you closer to Christ or pull you farther away? If you love him, and live by faith, God will provide all that you need to raise children. If you make enough, let him make music, and you provide for the kids. If the husband/father doesn't work, how would the wife and children look up to him to provide a roof over their heads and food on the table? He is a musician and fantisizes himself as such lacks judgement (Prov also Prov).I remember once blowing out my oldest friend because Mr Rich called at the last minute and ordered me to come for a latenight supper. After I had nearly broken my neck running for a taxi, he arrived two hours late. He neither apologised nor said he would make it up to me, just waved an imperious hand and summoned the wine waiter.When he called the following morning, I simply told him I had found someone else, and went in search of a kindly beta male.Being poor and unhappily married is a lot worse than being rich and unhappily married. Let this man put his house in order and act responsibly, which is consideration for you and love and kindness being expressed.At least with a bit of money you can take a holiday away from your husband now and again. If I were about to marry and had not a penny to my name I would firstly be ashamed and secondly make provision of a decent job. If this man loves you more than himself, he would go out of his way to provide on his part. If you are willing to put up with poverty then go ahead. Assuming he has, have you discussed fiscal prospects? If he isn't willing to go into a more lucrative field (or sub-field, such as teaching band), you'll have to step up to the plate and support your family.